How To Tell If He Is Lying?

Step One

Look for body language that might indicate someone is lying, such as not looking you in the eye when speaking to you, being fidgety, or acting nervous or uncomfortable.

Listen for inconsistencies in what the person tells you, such as different stories on different days, different time frames, mistakes in remembering details or mixing up details.

Step Three

Notice if the person steadfastly resists answering any questions. Extreme defensiveness could mean that he or she is trying to hide something.

Step Four

Notice if the person accuses you of lying or being deceitful when you really haven't been. This could reflect the other person's own underlying behavior, which he or she is projecting onto you rather than owning up to it.

Step Five

Listen to your gut and intuition. You may just "know" someone is lying. If you are not sure, don't jump to conclusions. Try to get some evidence to back up your hunch.

Step Six

Consider asking directly if the person has lied to you. Many people feel bad getting caught up in lies, and find it a relief to finally be honest.

Step Seven

Try to be understanding and listen to the person's reasons for lying. Was he trying not to hurt you? Was he afraid you would be angry, upset or disappointed?

Step Eight

Look at your possible role in having someone lie to you. Are you someone who gets so upset hearing the truth that others feel they can't be honest with you?

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